The Basics of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is a powerful process that can help individuals navigate life’s challenges, improve their mental well-being, and foster personal growth. In this blog post I will delve into the world of psychotherapy, exploring its different types, benefits, how to find the right therapist, and what to expect in therapy sessions. If you’re considering therapy, this article will provide you with the essential information you need.


Psychotherapy, also referred to as “talk therapy” or “counselling”, is a collaborative process between a trained therapist and an individual seeking support. It offers a safe and confidential space to explore emotions, thoughts, and behaviours, with the goal of alleviating psychological distress and promote meaningful changes.

Origins of psychotherapy

The origins of psychotherapy can be traced back to ancient civilizations such as the Greeks and Romans, who believed that mental disorders were caused by imbalances in bodily fluids. Later greek philosophers such as Aristotle and Plato introduced the concept of introspection, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and self-awareness for personal growth.The modern era of psychotherapy began in the late 19th century, with the work of Sigmund Freud – often referred to as the father of psychoanalysis. He proposed that our unconscious thoughts and repressed emotions can influence our behaviours and contribute to mental health issues. This theory paved the way for different types of psychotherapy, each with their own unique approaches and techniques.

Different Types of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy encompasses a wide range of approaches, each with its own unique techniques and focuses. Some popular types include:

  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): The early form focuses on identifying and challenging negative thought patterns and behaviors to promote healthier thinking and coping strategies. During more recent times CBT has moved away from changing thought patterns and focuses on building capacity to a wide variety of thoughts while being able to do what is important to you. Such methods are for example ACT and Minfulnessbased CBT.
  • Sex therapy: This type of therapy is specifically targeted towards addressing issues related to sexual functioning, potency, intimacy and improving sexual satisfaction. It may involve individual or couple sessions.
  • Psychodynamic Therapy: Explores the influence of past experiences, unconscious thoughts, and emotions on present-day difficulties. It simple terms, the psychodynamic approach looks for patterns and origins of certain habits of thinking and experiencing the world. This understanding is used to make changes here and now.
  • Humanistic Therapy: Emphasizes personal growth, self-acceptance, and self-actualization, with an emphasis on the individual’s unique experiences and potential. It is a less structured approach and the psychotherapist helps you process important events in your life.
  • Systemic Therapy: Focuses on understanding relationships and how they impact an individual’s mental health. This type of therapy can involve family, couples, or group sessions.Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Combines elements of meditation and cognitive-behavioral techniques to cultivate mindfulness, a state of present moment awareness. It is often used to treat conditions such as anxiety and depression.
  • Art Therapy: Involves using art-making as a tool for self-expression and healing. It can be helpful for individuals who struggle with verbal expression or have experienced trauma.
  • Family Therapy: Involves working with couples or families to address relationship issues and improve communication and dynamics.

Although there exists many approaches to psychotherapy they all strive to achieve the same outcomes: to help individuals improve their mental well-being and overcome specific difficulties, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, etc. Each type of therapy may use different techniques and approaches, but ultimately they all aim to promote personal growth and improve overall quality of life. It is not unusual for a psychotherapist to be able to practice more than one type of psychotherapy. It equips the therapist with additional tools to aid your understanding and path towards change.

Benefits of Psychotherapy

Engaging in psychotherapy can yield a wide range of benefits, including:

  • Improved Mental Health and Well-being: Therapy provides a supportive environment to explore and address mental health concerns, such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.
  • Enhanced Coping Skills and Self-awareness: Therapy equips individuals with effective tools and strategies to manage stress, regulate emotions, and develop a deeper understanding of themselves.
  • Better Relationships and Communication: Psychotherapy can improve interpersonal dynamics, helping individuals cultivate healthier relationships and develop effective communication skills.
  • Increased ability to focus and decision making: Therapy can help individuals improve their focus, make more informed decisions and take effective steps towards reaching their goals.

Finding a Therapist with a Good Fit

Finding the right therapist is essential for a successful therapeutic experience. Consider the following factors when selecting a therapist:

  • Credentials and Specialization: Ensure that the therapist is experienced (or has a license) and has expertise in treating the specific issues you want to address. In Denmark you will look for a psychologist with a “autorisation” or a trusted psychotherapist.
  • Rapport and Trust: Building a strong therapeutic relationship is crucial for progress. Trust your instincts and choose a therapist with whom you feel comfortable and understood.

What questions to expect from a “good” therapist?

A seasoned therapist will ask questions that will help you understand your emotional responses and how you can take ownership of your actions. Such questions, can be “How do you feel about X, when she does Y to you?” or “when you feel that way – how are you likely to act and express it?” and “are those actions moving towards or away from what is meaningful to you?”.

What not to expect from a “good” therapist

A therapist that tells you what you should do, feel and think is not a good therapist. You will not develop the skills to figure it out for yourself. The best therapists know, that there is only one expert in each person’s life – and that is themselves. The task for a therapist is to be patient and help you develop the skills it takes for you to handle difficult emotions, uncertainties and make difficult choices.

There are a very few exceptions to the above. For example, if you are about to do harm to self or others.

Does the Gender of the Therapist Matter?

The gender of the therapist is a personal preference that varies from individual to individual. Some may feel more comfortable working with a therapist of the same gender, while others may prefer the perspective and approach of a therapist of a different gender. Ultimately, what matters most is finding a therapist with whom you can establish a trusting and effective therapeutic alliance.

How many sessions – the duration of Therapy

The duration of therapy varies depending on factors such as the nature of the concerns, individual progress, and personal goals. Some individuals may benefit from short-term therapy focused on specific issues, while others may engage in longer-term therapy for ongoing support and personal development. Your therapist will work with you to determine the most appropriate duration for your therapy.

What to Expect in a Therapy Session

Therapy sessions typically provide a structured and confidential space for open dialogue between you and your therapist. During sessions, you can expect to:

  • Discuss your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in a non-judgmental environment.
  • Set goals and work collaboratively with your therapist to develop strategies for personal growth and change.
  • Receive guidance, support, and feedback from your therapist.


Psychotherapy offers a transformative journey of self-discovery, insight, growth, and healing. If you’re considering therapy remember it is a collaborative process where you can ask questions and adapt focus to new discoveries when needed. Feel free to contact us to start your journey of psychotherapy with insight and change.