Couples therapy and counselling in English

Our experienced English speaking couples counsellors and therapists are here to help you get unstuck, overcome challenges and build a meaningful, caring and intimate relationship.

You can bring up, whatever relationship issue you are experiencing. Often we help facilitate changes and conversations about communication, crisis, intimacy, sex, parenting and being an expat family in Denmark.

You may also want to visit our FAQ to learn more about the common questions and misconceptions of seeing a counsellor. 

Psychotherapy for couples

At EGOLAB we are a team counselling psychotherapists with extensive experience working with relationship issues. In Denmark we have worked with expat English speakers for over a decade. We are familiar with the typical challenges you may be facing as a couple and we speak fluent English. Most of our counsellors have themselves lived for an extended period in various countries and have felt many of the challenges expats are facing in Denmark.

Counselling in English

We help couples with mixed nationalities and often one or both partners are not native English speakers. You may worry that you are unable to present yourself in English. While it is common to be afraid of not being understood or heard – we have not yet met a couple that did not benefit due to the lack of being able to speak fluent English.

Our goal as couples therapists is to support your mission

Our greatest accomplishment is to help you achieve a more meaningful relationship; and explore the full potential of how fun, exciting, serious and intimate your relationship can be. We are focused on how you want to benefit from counselling while also opening you up to new ideas and ways of moving handling challenges and moving closer to your partner.

Topics and exercises covered in counselling

In couples therapy, various topics and techniques are addressed to help you communicate more effectively, understand each other’s needs, and cultivate a healthier relationship. These can include:

• Communication exercises: These exercises are designed to improve understanding and reduce conflict. They often involve guided discussions, role-play, and active listening techniques.
• Handling and understanding triggers: When conflicts occur it is often due to an unhelpful response to underlying triggers such as emotions and thoughts. Identifying and finding alternative ways of handling your response may help you build a stronger emotional bond and get more of the relationship you desire.
• Conflict management: Concrete steps to help you defuse and avoid accelerating a potential conflict while building intimacy, and enhancing mutual respect.
• Homework Assignments: Often you will get homework assignments as a couple to complete between sessions. These assignments might involve practicing new communication techniques, spending quality time together, or completing personal reflection exercises.

Getting started; first session

When you have made an effort to seek help, we know that there will likely already be tension in your relationship and at least one of you will have a lot to share. We start by giving equal space for both of you to express what you are hoping to get assistance with and the change you are looking for. We are particular interested in understanding what a meaningful relationship looks like for you.

By understanding each partner individually and collectively we can set a path forward where you can each take ownership for the changes. We strive to develop particular tasks for each of you that you can complete between sessions. You can also read more about the process of couples therapy entails here.

What kind of questions can I expect?

The counsellor will ask questions that helps him or her understand what you need. For example the therapist may ask each of you “If todays session is a success from your perspective, what will be different?” or “What changes are you hoping these sessions can do for you?”.

Often clients are focused on changes that he or she believes the other should make. Although, it is not out of context to describe how other’s behaviour affects you, it is ultimately up to the other person to define and take action on “problematic” behaviour. This, means that the therapist will direct questions and enquiry in a way, that allows you to understand your partners feelings and take ownership of own actions – and not others’. Questions such as “How are you contributing to the conflict?” will help you understand, how you can defuse potential conflicts.

Ultimately, your will have greater chances of success when you have ownership and control of the changes you want to make. 

Sex therapy for couples

Sex therapy for couples is a focused type of psychotherapy that’s aimed at addressing sexual issues within a relationship. This type of therapy can be used by couples experiencing difficulties with intimacy or sexual satisfaction, or by those who simply desire to explore new levels of sexual enjoyment.

When we work with issues pertaining to sex we help create a safe and open environment where you as a couple and individuals can express sexual concerns, and learn strategies to improve sexual health and intimacy. The therapy can encompass various topics, from sexual desires and fantasies to performance issues or difficulties with arousal and orgasm. Ultimately, the goal is to foster healthier, more satisfying sexual relationships.

Cause and underlying challenges

There can be various reasons causing a decrease in sexual desire. One common factor is stress and emotional intimacy and unresolved conflicts which can profoundly affect your emotional well-being and consequently, your libido and sexual desire for your partner.

Changes in life circumstances, such as becoming a new parent or aging, are also known to affect sexual desire. It’s important to discuss these issues openly to find the best way forward for you as a intimate couple.

Lastly, other factors such as high blood pressure, diabetes, or hormonal imbalances and medications i.e. antidepressants, can lead to a reduced libido.

If you decide to bring up the topic we will help you understand the root of the problem and help you make steps that you are willing to take with compassion and focus on what you want to include in the relationship.

Marriage counselling

Marriage counselling, also known as couples therapy, is a type of psychotherapy that assists couples in recognizing, managing, and resolving conflicts to improve their relationship. However, it’s not just for couples in crisis. Many couples seek marriage counseling proactively, even before marriage, as a way to better understand each other and establish a healthy communication pattern.

Preventing serious conflicts

It’s a preventive measure, helping couples to identify potential areas of conflict before they become serious issues. This early intervention equips them with tools and techniques to navigate their relationship successfully, fostering a stronger bond and ensuring long-term marital satisfaction.

Should we separate or divorce?

Couples therapy may also be a tool to clarify if there is the strength and motivation to continue the partnership. At times this requires significant changes and you may decide it is not for you – or you may simply realise that although you would like to make certain changes, it is not possible for you to accept the differences  and limitations.

We strive for you to seek out every opportunity to make your relationship work. If you decide you have exhausted all possibilities we will try and help you move on amicably as friends and parents when you have children.

Moving on as parents after a divorce

Navigating the path of separation or divorce is a challenging task, particularly when children are involved. It’s not uncommon for couples to decide to maintain a friendship post-split for the sake of their children. However, this transition can be fraught with issues. Emotions may still be raw, making it hard to establish clear and objective boundaries.

Communication can become tricky, especially when it pertains to the children’s upbringing and co-parenting responsibilities. It’s imperative that both parties work towards establishing a civil, respectful relationship, fostering a stable environment for the children. The focus should always be on the welfare of the children, ensuring they feel loved and secure despite the changes in their family dynamic.

Offices where you can get couples therapy

We have multiple offices in Demark and you we offer couples therapy in all of them. Each office will have atleast one experienced couples therapist. Read more about about EGOLAB and our offices.

When you are unable to come into our office – or just prefer to online sessions – we can help you. We have years of experience offering online sessions. You may be in the same room or at different locations. Regardless we apply the same process and help you move closer to the partnership you are looking for.

Is online sessions for couple as good as in-person?

In general research shows that it all depends on the mindset of the client couple. If you believe and want to commit to working via an online meeting – you will benefit as if you were in the office. On the other hand, if you are uncomfortable with the medium and hesitant to share – you are unlikely to benefit to same the extend as in person.

Regardless whether you are in the same room as us or at a different location, we use an identical process to help you move closer to the partnership that you are looking for.

Questions and appointment booking

If you have any questions or want to book a consultation for couples counselling it is easy. You can give us a call or use the form below to write to us for a booking or to forward a question. We are usually able to offer a couples session within 5 working days.